Like most people, I'm always trying to get to the bottom of things and recently, due to arguments disguised as debate in this very forum, I was led by reasoning and remembrance down a rather short path to a revelation of sorts.

This is not my main point but I must first assert that I am personally certain that a primary causal factor for the existence of abortion, (and it's fervent and over-zealous cadre of supporters), is the fact that human beings are extremely sexual. We are a very sexy species indeed. According to the discovery channel, (rolls eyes), we are the sexiest species on the planet. Biologist inform us that, on average, our sex organs are larger per pound of body weight than any other mammal and our entire skin envelope is one huge erogenous zone. I also heard it said that the human brain is our most potent sex related organ of all by way of our natural instincts and our capacity for erotic thought.

This goes a long way toward explaining our often uncontrolled urges to fornicate. Even so, I have never been comfortable with this explanation alone, as it relates to the huge global incidence of unplanned pregnancies. Since understanding this phenomenon is key to developing a strategy for prevention of unplanned pregnancy, this is the point in greatest need of pondering. The pro-lifers know that the actual root problem of irresponsible behavior is what causes most unplanned pregnancies.. and the pro-aborti declare that it is none of anyone else's business what a women may choose to do with her body. Who among us hasn't engaged in this argument? I am not about to relent in my assertions that irresponsible sexual behavior is a very realistic and accurate assessment of the problem, however, I have come upon another idea that I now know is most likely the root of the root, so to speak.

Please consider with me the very basic need of the average Human Being.. for approval. There are many words that describe this need, = acceptance, validation, affirmation, all describe our individual need to feel like, I'm OK, I have value, I'm good enough for someone to love. The highest form of acceptance we can feel is one in the context of intimacy. Intimacy can be had in many forms but the intimacy I'm referring to is physical intimacy and of course the form of physical intimacy I'm referencing is sexual intimacy. This is the ultimate intimacy and, as such, offers up some highly prized and sought after elements. It embodies love, trust, submission, and conquest, and it's rewards are not only exhilarating but serve to quench and placate us, but more importantly, it offers us a profound form of personal acceptance.

Personal acceptance is among the top five basic Human emotional needs. It may well be number one. This need is in evidence everywhere we look. This need, in it's generic form, (not necessarily sexual), is what's at the root of my love for my wife and family. It's what makes me cherish my friends so very much. It is the basis of the desire for celebrity. It's all and everything to the human spirit. It is the very thing I love about Jesus the most.

On the other hand, a lack of personal acceptance can be devastating. How many emotional disorders emulate from it? Our entire self esteem can be crushed by rejection, as our very sense of self is completely dependent on personal acceptance by others. Hundreds of examples come to mind.

Unfortunately, while in the fevered pursuit of acceptance, we may often stumble. Could it be that sex partners may end up having unprotected intercourse as result of this issue of personal acceptance. In the heat of passion, does a woman, in her urgent desire for intimate acceptance, find it difficult to stop her partner and demand he use a contraceptive? This, in itself, is a rejection of the man. It is a rejection of his sperm and many men are very sensitive and resistant to this rejection and will employ charm, passionate persuasion, and even sometimes force, in order to overcome it. If a woman were to try to suddenly stop, in the heat of the moment, and run to the bath to employ a cervical cap or contraceptive foam doesn't this cause the same reaction in the man? In my very distant past I have been in this situation, (guilty as charged), and I can personally guarantee you that I didn't care for the romance interuptus one bit. At the time I doubt that I was consciously thinking, "Oh geeze, I feel like I'm being rejected", but I can tell you in hindsight, that this is exactly what I was feeling. I can also guarantee you that, after the fact, I was very happy in deed that it went down the way that it did. Whew!

So here we have two guilty parties. I guess we knew this all along. Both the woman and the man are seeking personal acceptance through intimacy and the woman is sensitive to the potential of making her man feel rejected. Add in a couple of six packs of beer, (or not), and we have what we have. A whole bunch of women in trouble. Oh, what to do, what to do?

I offer this pondering, not as a solution, but as a way to better understand the enormity of the root problem of human hyper-sexuality and emotional need that has led us to our present abortion epidemic.

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We say grace and we say Ma'am and
if you aint into that we don't give a Damn.
-Hank Williams Jr. (Country Boy Can Survive) -circa 1981

Edited: 11/05/2009 at 10:45 PM by leftsnemesis

I would think the best solution would be education. I was shocked to discover how many girls around me that I cared about were at risk of getting themselves hurt, because they equated "a man that wants to have sex with them" with "a man that loves them."

If they knew about the real hardships of life and how to look out for them more effectively, they'd be better equipped to avoid a situation in which they might be desperate enough to consider abortion an option.

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Because in the absence of certainty, when choice and life are set at each others' throats in their bitter and terrible struggle, there can be only one victor. Life is all.

You're preaching to the choir, leftsnemesis, PREACHING TO THE CHOIR! I can personally attest to the fact that each and every one of my many abortions has been the result of my inability to resist the magic and wonder that is sperm.

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Until every woman, everywhere is able to easily access safe, legal, private, affordable abortions, for whatever reason, at any time, on demand, without interference from outside parties and most importantly - without apology or shame.

That doesn't bode well for the sex ed or BC push.

As for us being sexual beings, we'll we're also geared up to be incredibly violent and blood thirsty, but we don't just shrug and say "education" about that one.

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Cannot unsee.

Know Rule 34.

Hey, Queen of denial, have another drink.

So what you mean to say is that my opinion is just that.. and you are a.. ? Can someone please help me finish that last sentence?

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We say grace and we say Ma'am and
if you aint into that we don't give a Damn.
-Hank Williams Jr. (Country Boy Can Survive) -circa 1981

I don't have much time this morning.....oh the possiblities of filling in that blank are endless.
Shall I start alphabetically?

Queen of absolutley nothing of value hasn't the IQ to understand the premis of your post.
It's excellent and spot on.

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A nation of sheep will beget a government of wolves. - Edward R. Murrow

The first liberal was satan.

Edited: 11/05/2009 at 10:07 AM by saucie

The myth is that sex is either necessarily acceptance or intimacy. Sex is a physical letting in of the other person but often only on a physical level. It's intimate in the sense that people reveal their bodies to one another. Intercourse is not necessarily love however. Real intimacy is more of the mind and requires the consent of the will beyond merely taking an action with your body. Sexual intercourse often leads to alienation and confusion rather than any emotional clarity. We are sexual creatures to be sure. We are also moral creatures that often deny that morality. Sexual intercourse is not an accident. It's the result of a series of choices and sadly more often bad choices rather than good ones.

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People that support abortion are narrow minded, morally frail, passively cruel, constitutionally weak, emotionally impaired and are in every way, humanly disadvantaged.

I AM A PRO-LIFE PERSON!

Oh, saucie, will you please help me in seeing the light? Tell me exactly what the "premis" of this post is?

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Until every woman, everywhere is able to easily access safe, legal, private, affordable abortions, for whatever reason, at any time, on demand, without interference from outside parties and most importantly - without apology or shame.

leftsnemesis, you've GOT to stop leaving us hanging with your responses. It kills. Oh, how it kills. Just spell it out for us already.

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Until every woman, everywhere is able to easily access safe, legal, private, affordable abortions, for whatever reason, at any time, on demand, without interference from outside parties and most importantly - without apology or shame.

it kills? then you should really like that! (hopefully not)

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"If men...hurt a woman WITH CHILD...he shall be surely punished...and he shall pay..."(Exodus 21:22)KJV
God is Love.
Jesus is Christ.
Father forgive us and deliver us from evil.

If you're trying to point out I left the e off of premise that still makes you queenofnothing and leaves your IQ in single digits.

Go back and read it slowly this time.
Let us know if I have your IQ too high or not.

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A nation of sheep will beget a government of wolves. - Edward R. Murrow

The first liberal was satan.

I know, right? Because pro-choicers are ALL about killing. Killing everything everywhere everytime. Making certain to stamp out the life of breath from anything living we come in contact with.

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Until every woman, everywhere is able to easily access safe, legal, private, affordable abortions, for whatever reason, at any time, on demand, without interference from outside parties and most importantly - without apology or shame.

At least you admit it and it's about freaking time!

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A nation of sheep will beget a government of wolves. - Edward R. Murrow

The first liberal was satan.

Plan on growing up anytime soon...or are you just going to show us all how big and bad you are by using the f word?
Could you possibly get anymore pathetic....think not.

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A nation of sheep will beget a government of wolves. - Edward R. Murrow

The first liberal was satan.

Shut up.
You're a worthless piece of crap...you've been owned so many times on this board it's pathetic.
If you had an ounce of self respect you'd crawl back under your slimy rock where you belong.

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A nation of sheep will beget a government of wolves. - Edward R. Murrow

The first liberal was satan.

Saucie is right, I don't think QueenJ quite understood that the beginning post wasn't really about the abortion issue per se. I may have taken at shot at the proaborti out of habit and self entertainment, but the main thrust of the posting was neither pro, nor anti, abortion. I'm guessing that she figured that out once she sobered up a bit.. so I say we give her a pass on this one.

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We say grace and we say Ma'am and
if you aint into that we don't give a Damn.
-Hank Williams Jr. (Country Boy Can Survive) -circa 1981

ARGERN IS A PREVIOUSLY BANNED MEMBER OF THIS FORUM.

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People that support abortion are narrow minded, morally frail, passively cruel, constitutionally weak, emotionally impaired and are in every way, humanly disadvantaged.

I AM A PRO-LIFE PERSON!

Edited: 11/05/2009 at 11:07 PM by Augustine

Argern, I'm kind of new around here so I don't rememeber you from before and I was wondering, can you tell me more about yourself. It's interesting, the avatar you've selected appears to represent an older woman with gray hair but your writing style and word choices suggest that you are a young man. What can you share with me about yourself? For example, I'd like to know, where do you hail from? Where do you work? What is your phone number? What is your exact address? What is your social security number? Where do you keep your money? What medical problems do you have? Any psychiatric issues? Did you get beat up a lot in school? How long did you Mom have to keep a rubber mattress cover on your bed? How many of your acquaintances have you betrayed? What does feces taste like? Have you ever been locked up? Are you locked up now? Are you really a woman or are you a man dressed as a woman? Have you ever been chocked unconscious by your gay lover? Have you ever ate human flesh or drank human blood? How often do you rape children?

You know.. things like that, just so I/we might get to know you better.

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We say grace and we say Ma'am and
if you aint into that we don't give a Damn.
-Hank Williams Jr. (Country Boy Can Survive) -circa 1981

VEXING? IS THAT YOU VEXING?

Inappropriate! Entirely inappropriate!

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People that support abortion are narrow minded, morally frail, passively cruel, constitutionally weak, emotionally impaired and are in every way, humanly disadvantaged.

I AM A PRO-LIFE PERSON!

Edited: 11/06/2009 at 01:36 PM by Augustine

At least he didn't have his penis hacked off because he thought he was a woman. How's that facial hair removal coming Vex? Anybody mistake you for a woman yet?

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People that support abortion are narrow minded, morally frail, passively cruel, constitutionally weak, emotionally impaired and are in every way, humanly disadvantaged.

I AM A PRO-LIFE PERSON!